Life isn’t always easy—especially as a teen. Whether it’s school stress, family struggles, mental health battles, or feeling like the world is just too much, it can be hard to even think about what “joy” means, let alone find it. But joy isn’t just something that happens to us, it’s something we can create, even in the middle of chaos.
Joy doesn’t have to be loud or big. Sometimes it’s as simple as listening to a favorite song, texting a friend, or stepping outside for a few minutes. Studies show that small, intentional acts of self-care can boost mood and lower stress (American Psychological Association, 2023). Don’t underestimate the power of tiny moments!
When life feels overwhelming, try reframing the situation. This doesn’t mean ignoring your troubles, it means shifting perspective. Psychologists call this “cognitive reappraisal,” and research shows it helps reduce negative emotions and builds resilience (Gross, 2015). Instead of thinking, “Everything’s falling apart,” try, “This is hard, but I’m still here. That matters.”
It may seem strange, but giving joy often helps you feel it. Volunteering, supporting a friend, or simply making someone smile can boost your own mood. According to the Mayo Clinic (2022), acts of kindness release feel-good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin, making us feel more connected and hopeful.
Think about the things that make you feel most you. Art, dance, journaling, cooking, gaming, whatever it is, make a list and turn to it when things get rough. Having a “joy toolkit” ready reminds you that joy isn’t gone, it’s just waiting to be picked back up.
Sometimes, finding joy means asking for help. That’s not weakness, t’s strength. Whether it’s a counselor, a trusted adult, or a support group, connecting with others is a powerful way to process pain and find hope again.
You deserve joy. Even in the dark. Especially in the dark.
Joy isn’t about pretending everything’s okay. It’s about holding onto what is okay, even when the world feels heavy. You’re allowed to feel sad and still search for things that make you smile.
Sources:
· American Psychological Association. (2023). How to boost mental health through small habits.
· Gross, J. J. (2015). Emotion regulation: Current status and future prospects. Psychological Inquiry.
· Mayo Clinic. (2022). Volunteering and its surprising benefits.
Written by Mercury Cole
YHELP! Intern Blogger